Help for seniors drowning in clutter

Published 3:28pm Saturday, October 19, 2013

Dear Savvy Senior,

My 67-year-old mother’s house has become a cluttered mess. Since my father died a few years ago, her house is so disorganized and messy with stuff that it’s becoming a hazard. I think she has a hoarding problem. What can I do?

Worried daughter

Dear Worried,

Compulsive cluttering is a problem that effects up to five percent of Americans – many of whom are seniors – with problems ranging anywhere from mild messiness to hoarding so severe it may be related to a mental health disorder like obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). Here’s what you should know, along with some tips and resources that can help your mom.

 

Why people hoard

The reasons most people hoard are because they have an extreme sentimental attachment to their possessions, or they believe they might need their items at a later date. Hoarding also may be a sign that an older person is depressed, or showing early symptoms of dementia.

Common problems for seniors who live in excessive clutter are tripping, falling and breaking a bone; overlooking bills and missing medications that are hidden in the clutter; and suffering from the environmental effects of mold, mildew and dust, and even living among insects and rodents.

 

What to do

The Institute for Challenging Disorganization offers a free “Clutter Hoarding Scale” that you can download at challengingdisorganization.org.

If you find that your mom has only a mild cluttering problem, there are a number of things you can do to help. Start by having a talk with her, respectfully expressing your concern for her health and safety, and offering your assistance to help her declutter.

If she takes you up on it, most professional organizers recommend decluttering in small steps.

Take one room at a time or even a portion of a room at a time. This will help prevent your mom from getting overwhelmed.

Before you start, designate three piles or boxes for your mom’s stuff – one pile is for items she wants to keep-and-put-away, another is the donate pile and the last is the throwaway pile.

You and your mom will need to determine which pile her things belong in. If your mom struggles with sentimental items that she doesn’t use, like her husband’s old tools or mother’s china, suggest she keep only one item for memory sake and donate the rest to family members who will use them.

 

Find help

If you need some help with the decluttering and organizing, consider hiring a professional organizer to help you prioritize, organize and remove the clutter.

The nonprofit group National Association of Professional Organizers has a directory at napo.net.

If she has a bigger, more serious hoarding problem (if her daily functioning is impaired, or if she is having financial difficulties, health problems or other issues because of her hoarding) you’ll need to seek professional help.

To learn more, see ocfoundation.org/hoarding, which provides a hoarding center on their website that offers information, resources, treatments, self-help groups, and more. Also see hoardingcleanup.com, a site that has a national database of qualified resources including cleaning companies and therapists.

Send your senior questions to: Savvy Senior, P.O. Box 5443, Norman, OK 73070, or visit SavvySenior.org. Jim Miller is a contributor to the NBC Today show and author of “The Savvy Senior” book.

 

 

 

 

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